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Does age really matter when it comes to a relationship?

When it comes to dating, there are few unspoken rules about what is- and isn’t- an acceptable age gap between partners. Dating someone who’s your age, or a few years older or younger than you, is considered normal. Most of the time, a lot of young ladies struggle for a better relationship not because they don't have what it takes, they are rather confused on the matter of age difference. The question is, how much does age matter in a relationship?

We often put up walls and flee for the mountains, but before shutting the door on the chance at love, think about your potential lovers’ maturity level. If you both are on the same level of maturity, don’t let the attached age number, cloud your decision. In reality, love doesn’t care if someone is older or younger, but we certainly do. This is because society holds a negative stigma regarding age differences, which causes people to obsess over it. Remember, each person we meet, has a purpose in our life.

I want to share with you what a young lady came to tell me some time ago about her relationship. Her problem was, she has met a man who is very caring, loving and supportive but she is not comfortable with the age difference because the man is far older than her. Due to this, she doesn’t want to accept the man’s marriage proposal.

This is the question I asked her, DOES AGE MATTERS IN RELATIONSHIP? I will say, age doesn't matter when it comes to relationships. Age they say, is just a number.

As a woman, the first thing you should think and look out for in a man is love and maturity. When a man truly loves you, you will always be at peace. Peace is very essential in one’s life and relationship as well. You may choose a man who is older than you but might not be matured enough to give you the peace that you need in the marriage. In every relationship, love & maturity must be the ultimate consideration. Any other thing else, is secondary.

Furthermore, age is just a number in the sense that, maturity is the next thing to consider after love in a relationship. According to the Psychologists, maturity is the ability to respond to the environment and the awareness of a person to know the correct time and location to behave and knowing when to act, according to the circumstances and the culture of the society one lives in. In other words, some men are older but immature. They lack the ability to handle and resolve issues at hand or respond to certain circumstances in the rightful manner.

It takes maturity to resolve issues in a relationship and not age. Ladies should know that being older than a man is really not a problem when it comes to marriage. The important thing is the true love and maturity between the two partners.

You can marry a man who loves you and is ready to protect and support you even if he is younger. Never belittle or underestimate a man based on his age. You may settle with an elderly man who may take care of your physical needs but may fail to touch on your emotional needs.

Moreover, it will be better to settle with a younger man who will be ready to show you much love than you can imagine and will make you feel secured around him. You will be surprised that a young man will meet all your physical and emotional needs better than an elderly man. It will work and you will never regret it. At the end of the day, it is the personality and temperament of the person that matters not the age.



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