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What is marriage?

Marriage is an institution ordained and ordered by God. It was the only institution that was established before sin came into this world.

In Proverbs 18:22, KJV:“ He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtain favor from the Lord.”… In other words, when a man hears good things about the woman he wants to marry, he becomes so exited and develop much love for her and vice verse.

In the same vein, when they get married, they testify about their partners and this draws people’s attention and respect for the marriage or the partners.

Fighting and insulting your partners in public makes your partner lose respect before other people and also damages the foundation of the marriage/relationship. And this is the genesis of cold war and misunderstanding between partners. This act opens a door for intruders to manipulate the marriage and also gossip about your partners. Both partners must respect each other, and try to keep and resolve marital issues within.

Bringing issues out to the public to seek advice does not solve or resolve problems but rather escalate into worse situations. Remember once the public loses respect for your marriage / relationship, it becomes very difficult to attain or regain such respect. To earn respect for your marriage and maintain it, you must desist from fighting your partners in public and reporting him to friends and families. Everything concerning your marriage must be between the two of you.

This is because you have become one body as stated in Genesis 2:24, KJV: “ Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and shall become one flesh.”…Naturally, one must treasure his or her marriage/relationship by keeping everything secret within. You must learn to resolve issues amicably without involving a third party. Learn to protect and keep your marriage / relationship from public ridicule. By so doing, you must respect your partner at home and outside the home as well. Be very careful, and know how to treat your partner at social gatherings and everywhere you go, to avoid people disrespecting your partner. Never have the intension and assurance that your issues will be resolved through these channels or means.

In Genesis 2:23, KJV: “This is now the bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh and she shall be called woman, because she was taking out of man”…. In other words, the man should value the woman by being approachable and friendly as the head of the family.

To have a wonderful and a successful marriage / relationship one must adhere to the two powerful ways to protect your marriage / relationship.

First of all, ‘TREASURE YOUR MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIP’ as it is written in the book of Matthew 6:21, KJV: “For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also”… When a person treasures the partner or sees the partners as a treasure, it becomes very difficult to disrespect or rain insults on him in public. Treasure your relationship as something you don’t want to lose, by always working around it to make it grow than to lose it. You must work to win the heart of your partner by not concentrating more on your partner’s weakness. Nobody handles his treasure anyhow, just like a master card or the pin on the master card. This is because he knows how hard he worked to get the money on that card. The same applies to our partners, they are the treasures we labored to find which must be cherished and protected.

In the same vein, we can not expose the pin of our treasures to our families and friends to meddle in our affairs. Do not allow your friends and families to have full access to your spouse in other to maintain a certain level of respect for them.

Secondly, ‘TALK TO A PROFESSIONAL COUNSELOR’. Why is it necessary to talk to a professional counselor? Let us look at the following biblical facts that supports the idea and the importance of seeking for a professional counselor for your marriage/relationship. In Proverbs 24:6, KJV: “For by wise guidance you can wage your war”. Similarly, Proverbs 15:22, KJV “Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed”. Lastly, Proverbs 11:14, KJV “Where there is no counsel, the people fail; But in the multitude of counselors there is safety”.

In other words, if you wish to talk to someone about your relationship, try and talk to a professional counselor. There are numerous well known professional counselors around like Auntie Odo from Odo University. If you need counselling it is advisable for both partners to agree and see a professional counselor. If your partner is not in support of the idea go alone, the counselor will find ways and means to invite your partner.

Moreover, if you don’t get a professional counsellor, find a respectable and an elderly person who is closer to your partner to talk to him /her. The person will help to counsel your partner to bring peace. If things are done this way, your marriage/relationship will always be well protected without any problems. Finally, let the word of God be your guide as the Bible says, in Proverbs 3:6, KJV: “ In all thy ways acknowledge God and He shall direct your paths.”..

Remember, a protected marriage or relationship, is a peaceful one.



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